Alone again
I’ve lived alone for the past 3 years. I enjoy the solitude, being able to leave stuff laying around, not having to worry about other people messing with it. Still, with the many advantages of living alone, you do get to that point if solitude that you want some companionship. Many of my friends still live with their families or are recently married. I'm one of the few that lives alone. Those still living at home talk of how much better it would be to live on their own, away from their families and their rules, but I don't think they fully understand what it means to live alone. Granted, its been almost 10 years since I lived at home, but over those ten years I have had several roommates. You do miss what seem to be meaningless conversations, arguments, accountability, or just spending time, not work or church related, with somebody that knows you a little better than your friends. I've been sick for the last 3 days. No one, other than my friend Mark, has checked up on me. No one usually does. This is one of those times I'd like to have a friend (or somebody closer than a friend) that lives here to tell me about their day, ask how I've been doing, wonder if we were going to cook dinner or pick up something to-go. I miss that.
posted by El Guapo at 4:45 PM
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It is my perception that as we go through a transformation in our perception of life and how we cope with it, we also learn that some people are meant to be alone, and be content with that. However, so many more people in the world spend part of their life searching for the right companion with whom to share their life.
I commend you on your realization that some people take years to acknowledge. Furthermore, some people pursue people without any intentions of a commitment. However, from your writings, I perceive that you are a person who acknwoledges that you have come to a point in your life were you no longer strive to survive, but to share your endevours and aspirations with someone. You enjoy those things which you have, but you are striving for further meaning and significance that come when you share it with someone you can cherish with love. Furthermore, you desire someone that can do the same with you.
My word of encouragement to you is that you should not despair in your quest, but in fact, continue to leave this special person in God's care and allow Him to prepare the two of you for the appointed time that He has set for you and your companion.
I think relationships in life are so important, and we're not always the best at them. Many people put this down to the fact we have become urbanized - sprawled out, suburbanized, behind gates, removed from the center of cities and towns. To a certain extent, I see the merit in this argument.
The truth still remains though, that as followers of Jesus we're supposed to love one another. I remember learning you were sick that weekend after the fact. It made me feel terrible that I hadn't notice or didn't know.
I was thinking heavily about this last night. Connection and communication between people is kind of our lifeblood. Without it, we tend to feel withered or isolated. And sometimes, we just need connection or conversation for conversation's sake, not rallied around some cause.
I love having you as part of our worship team, but you are more than just the bass guy in the band to me. Unfortunately, I've not always actively reinforced that.
It's something as a church that we are desperate to become better at - the climb down from Bible-study based relationships, from the separation of personal and spiritual time. I'm ready. Are you?
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